Kids and Chores: Our Family Is A Team
"Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ."
Galatians 6:2
I've seen a variety of posts about chores that different children do at designated ages in the home. I decided to give you all an inside look at how we share tasks and responsibilities in our home.
I stress to my children how important working together is. I explain that we need to all help one another and share responsibilities. This is true not only in our home but in Christ's church as well.
Right now my children are 2, 4, 5, and 7 years old. I have not implemented a chore chart.....yet. *gasp* I know, I know. Right now I have focused on training my children to do specific tasks around the house. Once my children have learned a task well enough to do it on their own it becomes a responsibility. They have a few minor responsibilities they are expected to do daily, but instead of having a daily or weekly chore chart we have cleaning days. These days are inserted into our schedule at random when we have a free day to clean the house together. Usually this is about once a week but due to an ever-changing schedule we haven't been able to select one specific day for this.
At their age, I've found it's more successful to go room by room and give each person a task to do so everyone works together as a team. If I have to leave to go to another room I give my older three specific tasks to do and when they're done with that task, assign another. For example, instead of saying "Cleaning the living room." I give a specific task to each person such as "Joshua: Put all the cushion and pillows on the couch." "Trinity: Gather up any shoes and put them on the shoe rack." etc.
Just the other day we worked in the kitchen together. It was still a big mess from when we were all sick. I instructed them on what dishes could go in the dishwasher (there are certain items that can't be washed). Not only did I instruct them on WHAT can go in the dishwasher, but WHERE they go and how to load it. As they brought me dirty dishes I quizzed them and asked them where certain items should go. They had fun with it. One more time of instructing them and they should be able to work on loading the dishwasher themselves.
In addition to loading the dishwasher, we set up a dishwashing assembly line. I washed the dishes and set them on a drying mat by the sink. Brenden and Trinity dried those dishes with towels and then handed them to Joshua who looked them over to make sure they were dry and laid them on the table to be put away.
Here are a list of jobs I ask my children to do on cleaning days. We usually pick one or two rooms to do on a cleaning day and do not do all these at once. Tasks that are BLUE are ones that they are expected to do daily.
LAUNDRY
Things they know how to do:
- Bring Laundry downstairs and put the clothing in my laundry cart (hamper)
- Bring Laundry to the washer for me to examine and wash.
- Unload Dryer
- Fold Laundry
- Load dryer
Things they will be instructed to do in the near future:
- Examine clothes for stains.
- Use stain remover
KITCHEN
Things they know how to do:
- Take dirty dishes to the sink.
- Wipe down the kitchen table
- Wipe down kitchen chairs
- Help with loading the dishwasher
- Help unload the dishwasher
- Help dry handwashed dishes
- Scrub floors with scrub brush
Things they will be instructed to do in the near future:
- Load dishwasher independently (working on that now)
- Unload dishwasher independently (working on that now)
- Empty trash and reline garbage can with new bag (It's a pretty big bag which is why we haven't covered that).
- Sweep (We've been working on this; it's a work in progress....they haven't mastered using the broom yet, but they're getting better)
ENTRYWAY
Things they know how to do:
- Hang up bookbags
- Hang up coats
- Put shoes on shoe rack
KIDS BEDROOMS
Things they know how to do:
- Put toys in bins
- Clothes in their hamper
- Garbage in trash
- Make their beds
- Empty trash
- Vacuum
BATHROOM
Things they know how to do:
- Wipe down sink
- Wipe down toilet
- Pick up garbage (toilet paper, etc)
- Clothes in hamper
- Empty trash
Things they will be instructed to do in the near future:
LIVING ROOM
Things they know how to do:
- Vacuum
- Straighten couch cushions
- Take toys to their room
- Put away misc items
On cleaning days I like to add some incentive for a job well done and usually give them a reward at the end of the day. Something simple like, extra TV time, extra long bubble bath, etc. Daily responsibilities are not something I reward, but will definitely make sure to praise a job well done.
One thing that was hard for me was letting go of control and accepting their help. God taught me that I needed to be including them more in helping out around the house. I needed to teach them responsibilities and stop having them rely solely on me. He taught me this when I injured my ankle and couldn't do a lot things on my own. It's soooo much easier to do everything myself and the job is usually done right and quickly. However, my children are going to have a difficult time learning to be responsible if they don't help out around the house now and grow used to having someone do everything for them. Now that we've been working on certain tasks for awhile and they've improved their skills it's actually less of a burden, and they are truly helping me. So take my advice:
"Give praise often, don't redo a job in front of them, don't expect perfection, have patience and remember they want to please you." <--- Tweet This
Over the summer I believe I will have tasks on our cleaning days that the kids can "sign up" for. We did this at church camp with our cabin "duties." We'll see how it goes and I'll be sure to share that.
A few things I really like about cleaning together as a family, instead of everyone working on their own, is that it keeps everyone motivated and on task. It also ensures that nobody is sneaking about getting into trouble while Mom's in another room cleaning. If we're all together, we're all working to accomplish one goal.
Once my children are old enough to stay motivated and focused on their tasks by themselves, I will give them more independence in completing their responsibilities and assigned tasks.
This doesn't mean there won't be frustrations. This doesn't mean there won't be bickering among siblings. But the more you try to handle those situations with patience and grace, the closer it will bring your family together.
**Want to see how other moms teach life skills and responsibilities to their little ones? (I think every family does it a little bit differently so it's nice to compare, take notes and apply what best fits your family's lifestyle). Here are some really great posts to check out:
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